How can I keep my relationship from doom?
Topic: Language case sensitive means
July 19, 2019 / By Gwenneth Question:
I really love my boyfriend. We've been living together for almost a year now.
Lately it seems like things have been going down hill. He got a new job that's very labor intensive and physically exhausting. I know he's very tired when he gets home... but he doesn't seem to be interested in sex anymore. He either avoids my attempts completely (like if I hold his hand and lead him to the bedroom, he'll just kiss me on the forehead and walk away) or he'll say something like "I would, but I'm too tired right now." He's assured me it's nothing personal, because I asked if he wasn't attracted to me anymore. He says it has absolutely nothing to do with me.
However, since he's gotten this new job, we've started getting into more bickering fights over little things. It just seems like one or both of us is either "too tired" or in a bad mood about something, and we keep getting on each others' nerves.
I'm also particularly sensitive to the fact that he seems to criticize me a lot, and NEVER dishes out compliments. If I clean up occasionally I'll get a "hey, it looks good in here" but that's it. I feel like I'm always being loving towards him and telling him how much he means to me or how proud I am of him for the tough work he's doing at his new job... but I'm never getting any of it back. He never tells me I look attractive or that I'm special to him somehow. He just never compliments me period.
I feel like all of it's starting to take a toll on me. I don't know if he's intentionally pushing away or if I'm being overly sensitive. How can I keep this relationship from going sour? And how can I get from him the kind of affection and verbal reassurance I would like?
All I really want is for him to initiate sex at least 2-3x a week and for him to appreciate me (especially vocally) a little bit more.
Best Answers: How can I keep my relationship from doom?
Dindraine | 1 day ago
I'm in the same boat! Ha ha, but its 4 years now :-) Only difference is, mine is out of work - but in school - and just not interested in sex at all. If he's getting it somewhere else, he's damn good at hiding it LOL so I really don't think that is the case. Is yours an only child? Mine is, and he's used to getting that affection but never had to learn to give it. I am not a nagging person, and DO NOT WANT TO BE. I will however get to the point you are at and ask if he cares at all about me and my feelings... its just a little reminder - and works wonderfully!
Once you're together for a good long period of time - like ya'll - things get comfortable and patterned.. which is the worst thing for romance and "being in love"
you should both sit down and talk about your expectations regarding your future - not in a "if we don't do this I'm leaving" type thing but just a good conversation. Talk about what you need to feel appreciated - read "Languages of Love" And read it together - it talks about finding out how someone feels/needs love and makes you aware of your own actions and your role in making them feel that.
Good Luck :-D don't be afraid to talk though -- I wasted 3 years not talking... and it almost ruined my relationship, he's your partner... tell him!
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You both sound like a married couple.
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run him a bubble bath or fix him something that
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ok, treat him just the way he does to you, be cold with him and never ask for sex again and if he really is still in love with you he will feel the difference, he will ask you what's going on and this way you both will have a long talk and clarify things up every one of you explainning his needs, if not and he goes on the way he is, you have to consider the fact that sometimes with time feelings get colder and even vanish.
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