Topic: Problem solving in medical field
June 20, 2019 / By Dorris Question:
I got referred to this specialist guy to help me deal with my problems. The only difficulty I'm having is my parents got sent a sheet ( I'm 15 ) that i wasnt supposed to read and it detailed what they had learned about me from that 1 session. A fair amount of the stuff was either wrong, or i hadnt made it clear at all. For example, it said i didnt injure myself intentionally even though i put yes on the questionnaire.
Here's my question, can i either completely change what i said because apparently i made it sound like i have anxiety issues which i don't or just erase the wrong parts?
Catherine | 8 days ago
I find the situation that you have described to be ethically HIGHLY questionable. At age 15, you are certainly mature enough to be fully involved in your own medical care. Your therapist should not be providing information to your parents that is not also provided to you. I wonder where you got the impression that you were not supposed to see this? I am wondering if it was from your parents, and whether your counselor was actually behaving ethically by sending the information to you, and that it was actually your parents who had the mistaken impression that you should not see it.
With regard to what you view as inaccurate information over injuring yourself, this might be a misunderstanding based in the doctor's training and the terminology that he is using. A doctor's focus, in dealing with a patient who is self-harming, is to accurately assess whether the patient intends serious harm to himself (such as a serious suicide attempt), or only superficial harm (such as a suicidal gesture intended to get attention, or traditional "cutting" intended to release endorphins). So, a patient might have said, "Yes", meaning the the patient really meant to cut his arm, and the doctor might have said, "No." meaning that while the patient did cut his own arm, the patient was not intending to succeed in killing himself or otherwise cause himself serious, lasting injury.
With regard to anxiety, that is pretty much one of the two major catch-all terms in the mental health field (the other term is "depression"). All persons experience anxiety, so it's CYA (covering your a$$), to say that a patient is suffering from anxiety. Another way to put it is "you are stressed out". Any patient who is self-harming is stressed out. Period. A doctor views self-harming as a symptom of anxiety and depression. That's simply a medical definition -- the accurate medical term for what is occurring.
Your focus here should be in trying to understand what your therapist is saying. As you ask questions, and understand the report better, you might correct any misapprehensions he is under, or you might come to a better understanding of how a medical professional views your problems, which is obviously much more objective and scientific than how a fifteen year old views those problems. A fifteen year old might be worrying about managing anger, fitting in at school or getting along with his parents. A therapist will view those same problems in terms of a diagnosis and symptoms, using terms like anxiety or depression, mood disorders or personality disorders (by this last term, I mean the medical definition like borderline personality disorder). A doctor will recognize that if you identify and treat the symptoms, then social problems resulting from those disorders will start to resolve themselves. It will probably take you some time and practice to start understanding how what you say about your situation relates to how your specialist is relating that to the medical sciences.
Start picking his brain to understand the language for what you are dealing with. It may sound strange, but my problems finally got a lot more manageable when I learned some of the terms for what I was dealing with. In my case, my mother had untreated borderline personality disorder and alcoholism. When I learned important terms like "depression", "anxiety", "attachment disorder", "splitting", "enmeshment", "co-dependency", "psychosis", I was able to start Googling, and finding other people who were coping with these problems in their family, and it all started to make sense. It didn't solve the problems, but it gave me a lot more resources in finding strategies for coping with her behavior, and finding other people who had gone through the same thing, and finding out how they coped. It also helped me to view the behavior as an illness to be managed, rather than a problem that I could solve. A lot of my problems came from trying to "solve" problems in my relationship that couldn't be solved, because they arose from someone else's illness that I had no control over. When my expectations became more realistic, when I realized that my mother was suffering from her illness, I lost a lost of the frustration and anger that I had been struggling with, and started feeling a lot better. Your "problems" might not even be *your* problems. Your problem might be stress or anxiety from dealing with someone else's problems.
Meanwhile, this is only the first session, and the first report, and no one is perfect. The therapist might have gotten some things wrong, but as you have more visits, your therapist will continue to get a better understanding of the situation, and the accuracy of the reports will improve. This type of medical treatment is not an exact science. The more you put into it, the more you will get out of it.
Best Wishes and Good Luck. You'll get through this.
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not sure that you can take back what you hae said,, but it should have been made clear that your parents would read your sheet, so the provider has some explaining to do for you.
If it is wrong then you can ask to do another sheet, if it is right then perhaps this is a reason to ask for family therapy not individual therapy.