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Teaching a 3 year old?

Teaching a 3 year old? Topic: Free writing letter tips
July 19, 2019 / By Deloris
Question: I am homeschooling (sort of) my 4 year old and 3 year old daughters, and by sort of, I mean, just starting out, no pressure. Anyways, my oldest daughter LOVES to learn, by all different ways, hands on, or whatever. My younger daughter, however, is hopeless....in herself, that is. She knows her shapes and colors, and I am working on the counting thing and recognizing letters, but she always gives up on herself, saying, "I can't!" Before she even starts. Getting her to SAY a letter or count items is hard enough. Hands on activities, a complete battle. She won't even pick up a crayon or marker, to scribble yes, but if I try to get her to draw a circle, or to color parts of a picture a certain color, she drops it and persistantly says "I can't! I can't!!!" At the moment I have simply resorted to letting her watch things I do with her sister, and hope she picks up on them, but is there any way I can spend time with JUST her and help her out? Should I just wait until she is ready to learn these things? Am I rushing things? I am just a little worried because my oldest is starting to read (learning letter sounds) and my youngest can't or won't even try to circle letters that she knows. Any tips would be great. She is able to do these things, she just refuses to do so. She isn't behind, she just gives up when I ask her to do specific things. I need a way to overcome her stubborness, I think. I have seen her draw circles on her own, whether accidentally or on purpose, I have even seen her draw hearts, but when it comes down to, okay, time to learn! She pulls out the "I can't!" Card.
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Caelie Caelie | 4 days ago
At 3 years old, she should be able to hold a crayon and draw a smiley face, which includes a circle. Does she manage to hold spoon and feed herself a yogurt without spilling it? If not, she sounds a little delayed with her fine manipulative skills, so she does need a lot more encouragement than her sister did. Is there a way you can work 1:1 with the youngest? She probably feels left out and she sees her sister being able to do all these things that she physically cannot do as she isn't old enough. I suggest you work with the youngest 1:1 and play games, related to developing her fine manipulative skills. As for saying "I can't", I think it would be appropriate for you to drop in "your sister couldn't do this either at first, but we worked together and now your sister can do it. If you try to do it and practice with mummy a little bit, you'll be able to do it as well". Then continue as normal, give her a pencil and ask her to do what you want her to do. When she does do it (stick at it and she will) praise her lots, don't go overboard and buy her sweets or anything like that but act really amazed "Woooooow, that is brilliant", then show the picture to her dad, granny, a friend, etc (whoever, basically), so she sees that people think her picture is really good - that'll also help promote her own self-belief and confidence. You could get your daughter doing another task, such as writing out her name, getting her a 12-20 piece jigsaw puzzle, cutting out shapes, and then work with your daughter 1:1. Good luck, if you need anymore advice, feel free to mail me.
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Caelie Originally Answered: Need help teaching 8 year old simple math?
Since you think she might not be trying at all, perhaps her teacher suspected the same thing. That could explain a teacher "getting mad", though most likely that's an 8 year old's interpretation of a teacher who's frustrated that the child is not getting it and that the teacher doesn't have enough time to give her all the one-on-one time she needs to get it. Anyway, the advice on using a 100's chart is great. I taught my children to "skip count" by first making a poster. For tens, I drew circles onto a piece of poster board and then they counted out 10 grains of rice and glued them into the first circle. We counted them and labelled the circle "10." Then we counted out 10 more grains of rice, glued them into the next circle, counted all the rice so far, and labelled the 2nd circle with the total "20." And so on. We took a couple of weeks to make the poster, but eventually had 50 circles, counting by 10s up to 500. After that, we'd practice using it daily. Eventually, the children could easily count by 10s and understood the process. Anyway, I'd suggest making a chart like that, to make sure that she really understands the idea of counting by 10s. I'd use a hundreds chart and practice counting by 10s starting with any number (and let her first try looking at the chart and actually count out 1, 2, 3, .... 10 to find the next number, then count again to find the next number, etc.; I'd have her write the number that she started with and each number after that, so that she can see the numbers.) I wouldn't try to show her the shortcut for a while, let her do it the long way until she gets really good at it. Once she gets really good at using the hundreds chart to count by tens starting with any number, she may realize the pattern of simply changing the tens' digit. If she doesn't figure it out on her own, eventually bring out her past practice and have her look at all the ones she's done previously and at the tens chart and see if you can get her to figure out that you are always dropping down to the number below the current one, and then to see that the number below the current one has the same final digit, but a different tens' digit. Keep practicing the skill. Let her do it the original way, of counting to find the next number, if she wants, but gently remind her of the shortcut and how much easier it is. She'll eventually get it. But it may take a lot of practice. And eventually she'll be able to do it without the hundreds chart, but let her use it until she doesn't need it any more. I've found that most kids who have "a block against math" haven't been given enough practice and time to build a solid foundation, or they've been convinced that they are too dumb to learn math, or both. So, keep working on math with her. Work on stuff that seems a bit simple, to help reinforce the basics and to build her confidence. Work on stuff that's a bit harder to help stretch her ability. Using objects is good. Try other ways, too, to make it fun. Using stickers to do the math, or as rewards for problems done right helps. Get some fun math videos, such as "Multiplication Rock". Try doing her practice in different ways, such as on the sidewalk with sidewalk chalk (or with a paint brush and water), or with markers on a markerboard (or markers on paper), or with paint on paper, or with colored pencils, or with colored paper, or with a stick in the sand at the beach, or whatever you can think of--most kids will see this kind of variety as making it more fun. Get her to keep practicing and she'll eventually get it. That she's asking for your help is a good sign, though don't be surprised if it takes longer than you think it ought because of the trauma she's been dealing with--her mind may be elsewhere a lot of the time and she may need to talk out her family problems more in order to be able to get her mind back onto school work....

Alma Alma
She might just feel sort of intimidated by her older sister. Like she doesn't even want to try because it will never be as good as her sister. Sibling competition stinks. I've lived through it! If you can afford it, putting her in preschool might be really good for her. That way she is around other peers her own age, not her rival of a sister. It can become HER place, somewhere where her sister is not and she can feel like she's able to try without her sister, or mom, there to judge. And of course you don't judge her, and her sister probably doesn't either, but she can still FEEL like she's being judged. Does that make sense? My daughter goes to a Montessori preschool and is doing so well!!! She's 4 now, I started her at 2 and 1/2, and she's definitely now excelling far beyond kids her age now. It might be worth just looking into. It's also nice because being the mom AND the teacher is tough. Maybe all it takes is another voice encouraging her. Another bonus... when your older daughter goes to school, your younger daughter can feel cool going to school too!
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Uzziel Uzziel
Kids usually learn by copying their siblings but it also depends on their nature.. I have two kids 5 and 2 yrs, the little one looks at his big brother and copies and learns. We never even thought about teaching the little one anything yet, but he recognises the alphabet now and we didn't know until my elder one told me one day. But i remember when i was a kid i always thought i would never be good enough like my elder sis who was 2 yrs older than me! So i would never try. ( My parents even wondered that i might be intellectually challanged! ) But, things worked out quite well after i started school :) I guess thats what might be happening with ur little one. Girls are much more emotional than boys. I guess she thinks she won't be able to do things as good as her sister does them, and probably says she can't even without trying! Don't compare them. Don't make them both study together. Or give them entirely different activities to do. Kids are all different, some thrive when given challanges, some just shy away even though they are capable and you have to continually encourage them. Don't stress, she's still got 2 more years to go to kindergarten. And probably you can get her to study much better when her elder sister is at school next year!
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Rolly Rolly
Your 3 year old sounds a little stubborn. Maybe have a treat like mini marshmallows or M&Ms for each time she get it right or dose what you ask her to do. Some kids need a little reward system. If that goes well make a little chart so if she dose it 5 times she gets the treat and so on. Good luck!
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Millard Millard
Try to give your oldest a workbook to keep her busy and work more one on one with your youngest, reward her when she gets the hang of something, and give her plenty of praise. Come up with fun activitys to focus on the lesson and a reason to want to do it, ex: when teaching about colors eat a snack that is that color, just make it fun as possible for her! It shouldn't be so hard!
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Millard Originally Answered: Teaching a 11 year old horse to jump help?
Without seeing your pony, it's hard to say for sure what is going on. But in all likelihood Ketra is right. Is your horse the cautious and careful type, or does she just go right up to the crossrail like it's no big deal and hop right over? If she's the easygoing, no-big-deal type of horse, she's probably just being lazy when she hits the fence. The fix for this is multi-part. First, make sure you have more impulsion coming in. Don't let her rush to the jump, but ask her to take more powerful energetic strides. Also, raise the difficulty of the jump enough to get her attention. I would use a placing pole before the jump and raise the height of the crossrail or maybe even set a small vertical. If you don't know how to do this, you need to be working with a trainer who can help you. However, the main reason you should get a trainer to watch your horse jump and evaluate the problem is that if the problem is not just carelessness on your horse's part, you could make the problem worse by raising the difficulty of the jump like I suggested. For example, a common reason for a horse hitting the jump with the hind legs is the rider's weight coming down into the saddle too early. Making the jumps bigger will just make you hit your horse's back even harder and he will lose confidence in you. Perhaps your pony's problem is just lack of balance and he doesn't quite know where to take off for the fence. In that case, he needs work with jumping gymnastic grids and needs placing poles before the fence for sure. In summary, we can all make guesses as to your pony's problem, but we have not seen him. If we guess wrong and you follow the wrong advice, you could permanently ruin him for jumping. So, get a trainer or at least a more experienced rider at your barn to watch you jump and advise you. At the very least, put up a video so we can see what you're talking about. Don't worry, nobody learns to jump correctly all on their own. Behind every truly good rider there is a good trainer in their past.

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