Originally Answered: How to stop being depressed and stop cutting and stop thinking about suicide?
I have been dealing with depression, suicide, and cutting for 6 years now. I am not going to tell you it's going to be easy to get over, because in all reality it isn't. But it is possible.
It is good that you have realized that you need to stop. Cutting is an addiction, just like drugs or alcohol. But the good news is that all addictions, even cutting, are able to be overcome!
Depression and suicide are a little bit different. Sometimes depression is situational (i.e. a loss of a loved one), but other times it is chemical. Situational depression is natural, and everyone feels it. Chemical depression is caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain. It's not something that can be "cured" by just dealing with it. That's where a doctor or psychologist comes into play. They can more properly help see if it really is a chemical imbalance. I know you are opposed to medication, but take it from me, it can really help stabilize you. Suicidal thoughts can come from the depression. I highly suggest going to a doctor or psychologist so they can help you.
Ok, now for tips and tricks. I will start off my saying that everyone is different, therefore something that works for one person isn't necessarily going to work for another. With that said, the most important thing you can do is find another way to relieve your pain besides cutting. Take a hobby that you have, and use that. For me, it is athletics. Whenever I feel like cutting, I go run, or do some push-ups. Anything to stop cutting. Some people write down what they are feeling. Others write songs or draw. Just find something that can distract you, even if it is for 5 minutes.
Overcoming depression, cutting, and suicide isn't easy. I've been trying to beat it for years. I have attempted suicide, and have been put in the hospital for it. One of the things I learned being in the hospital was the 12 steps to recovery. This is used mostly for Alcoholics Anonymous, but I turned it into something I could use for cutting:
1. We admit we are powerless over our illness of self-mutilation and cutting.
2. We believe that a Higher Power can restore us to wellness.
3. We make a choice to turn our will and our lives over to the care of our Higher Power, to help us rebuild our lives in a positive and caring way.
4. We make an honest and fearless personal inventory of ourselves
5. We admit to our Higher Power, to ourselves, and to others, the exact nature of our weaknesses and our strengths.
6. We are willing to have our Higher Power remove all our weaknesses.
7. We humbly ask our Higher Power to remove our weaknesses and to strengthen and heal us.
8. We make a list of anyone we have hurt by hurting ourselves, and we make a plan to make amends.
9. We make direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so we would injure them or others or ourselves.
10. We continue to take personal inventory, and when we blow it, we admit it, while we continue to recognize our progress.
11. We seek, through prayer and meditation, to improve our conscious contact with our Higher Power, praying to know our Higher Power's will for us and for the power to carry it out.
12. When we have experienced a spiritual awakening as a result of these steps, we carry this message to others who cut or mutilate and commit ourselves to a life of wholeness and healing.
I hope this has helped. Remember to take it one day at a time. You can't win a war in one day. You have to win small battles to win the war.