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I want to join the military but I don't want to hurt my family.?

I want to join the military but I don't want to hurt my family.? Topic: The sisters daily 5
May 23, 2019 / By Rosemarie
Question: I'm 17, and going to be 18 this December. Ever since I was little I've wanted to join the military. It hasn't seemed to worry my family untill these past couple years because I am near adulthood. My mother recently lost her own mother and she's the type of mother that really really clings on to her loved ones. I'm a little stuck here at the moment. I want to join the military because it's been a dream of mine, not a goal. It's something much more important than a career choice to me. I have a problem though. I have no job, and the only field I'm good at is game designing but it doesn't make me happy. I spent the last 9 years helping take care of my grandfather who had Alzheimers, and the way it's looking, I'll be doing that again, and again. My mother is 50, and my stepfather is 56. He's had cancer for a long time now, so I'm not sure what can happen in 4 years. My father works 17 hours a day, 9$ an hour to pay for his father's house AND he's too much of a push over that he feels he should take care of his lazy *** sister in the process. (and she's a drug-attic, drama-queen, etc.) He barely eats, he's 5'10 and 139lbs. 139 ******* pounds! The 1 free day he rarely gets, he sleeps off, and the house he is living in is so old it looks like it may collapse. I've told him many times to just stay over where I live and sleep in my bed, because most of the time when I live with him I have to cook him food anyways and get him ready for work. Take care of the daily chores (including taking care of his sister's dogs that she doesn't want to get rid-of). So far, it's looking as if he may he kill himself or I'll end up taking care of him like me and him took care of his dad. On top of that, some how I feel as if I'll have to take care of my biological father, which I don't even see anymore considering he was barely there for me anyways, but he has no one in his life either. I have a little sister and an older brother. My brother lives with his girlfriend in a whole different town and my mother tells me that if she passes, I am the one that takes care of Sarah. I haven't completed high school, and I've taken up homeschool. I'm sure I can handle all of this, but I feel there is little room for my dreams.
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Myriam Myriam | 1 day ago
Time to cut the umbilical cord. If you are serious about enlisting, DO IT. Don't ask for permission from anyone in your family. Take the testing, and sign. Then tell your family. I was not happy about my son enlisting, but I am proud of him. I believe our children deserve their own lives. You need to follow your dreams. It will be hard. Your mom will be pissed and probably everyone else, but you have to do this to be your own person. This is your time! Your family will learn how to live (without you) and not be so dependant on you. This is your life. No parent has the right to guilt their kids into delaying that. Its very selfish of them to expect so much from you. ENLIST. If this is your dream do it. God bless, good luck and be safe.
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